2004 – July 21

My mom used to say, “Good manners are your passport around the world.”

She reinforced this belief with bribery and threats, because she wanted to ensure that when released upon society, I would not embarrass her.

If the queen should ever invite me to tea, I now know when to use the miniature fork located to the left of the soupspoon.

I have tried to impress the same values upon my own children, yet at the rate they are learning etiquette, they could not get a signed permission slip to leave the city limits.

Call me a prude, but when I am eating, I do not wish to hear graphic details of how the dead, bloated possum lying in the front ditch looks or smells.

To my children, this is a fascinating dinner topic, and when followed by a blatting armpit concert, makes for a really fun meal.

Nose picking is, in my opinion, socially unacceptable, not to mention unsanitary.

However, little boys suffer from a kind of ‘paper-phobia’, which does not allow them to touch tissues.

The same affliction prevents them from using napkins. A perfectly clean shirtsleeve is considered an acceptable substitute, and if the shirt happens to be sleeveless, the inside of the collar holds pizza sauce adequately, as well.

Although I believe that word-matching games increase the mental abilities of my children, when sitting in a crowded doctor’s office I do not think it’s appropriate to use the word ‘butt’ in conjunction with the words ‘crack’ or ‘head’.

They view my distaste for the obscene with sadness, and think I have no sense of humor.

This is not true…I laugh at many things-just not the ones that include bodily noises or portions of their anatomy.

They think I’m boring, but I’m not. I get excited about a lot of stuff.

It thrills me when I don’t have to hide in the garage to have a quiet phone conversation.

I like being able to reach into my purse and pull out a pack of gum that still has a few sticks left in it. To me, it’s like winning a mini-lottery.

Contrary to popular belief, I am, in fact, not lonely in the bathroom. And, although I appreciate the help, I can get the paper off the roll all by myself.

I do realize that different people have different tastes in food, but I feel that the term ‘disgusting’ should apply to a breakfast of say, toenails on burnt toast- not to scrambled eggs and bacon.

Although I do appreciate their sense of environmental consciousness toward our natural resources, I would prefer my children did not drink straight out of the juice pitcher, because I don’t consider it wasteful to use a cup that will need washing.

I’ve been told they are very well behaved when they go elsewhere to visit, and my mother-in-law believes the reason for this is that they feel comfortable enough at home to ‘let it all hang out’.

If I could only make them understand this is a figure of speech, and not a request… then they might put on their pants before answering the door.